This is a synagogue and not a country club they do have responsibilities to teach values and care about their own children.
My Uncle (my mother’s older brother) prays in this shul. His wife her maiden name is the first name listed of the two sisterhood Presidents. My parents lived a mile away as grew up in Monsey and my family belong another monsey Synogague community synagogue of Monsey
And my Uncle and his family have contributed to some bad behavior which I know goes beyond my parent. And it is really sad that in my ways we like to imitate the behavior of some other religions where they pick on easy targets and the weak. Before I go any further I will say none of it sexual.
For the past 23 years my parents have viewed me as an afterthought to not invite me for Thanksgiving. And Passover. That is a long time and some years was a good reason but Thanksgiving nobody even called me.
There are some other items though that really stick out though. At one point I was just in the book area and I saw a book with highlights that at certain times in the month it is ok to be abusive and be out of control and you have no control as my mother believed she was the endless victim. Even though I am a child. At that time I was really upset and my Uncle basically you can’t criticize your mothers reading material. My Uncle it should bother him my mother had such a victim complex.
My Uncle’s daughter, who is a therapist, is only friends with my mother and sister, not me and my father. Ok, fine. But she decided on my sister’s wedding to have a picture with her and her two older brothers and other female relative that is on my mother’s side. She could have picture of people of me or her immediate family rather then pushes her two older brothers. (One who intermarried by the way at a young age).
What is especially disturbing is that my Uncle has 8 Grandkids. My parents have 0 Grandkids and my sister just got married in her early 40’s. And I am in mid 40’s and unmarried. I mean why be so petty. And she is a therapist. She is certainly not about bringing people together. This daughter of their didn't proper values in this Synogague it seems.
God created both men and women in God’s image and an attribute of God is fairness and justice. Women are above just having a victim complex.
And the last thing is you know I went through a state where, yeah, I use to think my father’s side was bad and as I have become older I realize that it takes two to tango. My father grew up in Hungary, my mother grew up in the USA. My father came here as a teacher And as well Hungary had a tough history for Jews which I have become aware of in the last few years thanks to our own nationalist populist ideology that is becoming popular.
There this ideology now of hating people that aren’t “prefect American’s” and I almost get this sort of mentality.
But I also realize that what I through wasn’t my fault and has continued. There is no excuse for it and it
We criticize our enemies for viewing their sons is disposable. But sadly in our way some are engaging this kind of behavior and certainly the religious should not follow this secular pagan trend of seeing their son as disposable.

And of course what some do is say others have this problem and refuse to see it in their own circles.