My working focus is on the couple. In a sense, the couple is the unique co-creation of the two parties, and ultimately they?the couple? must work together to understand the origin and nature of the problems and co-create solutions. Thus the posture I seek to achieve is to collaborate with the two parties to examine the couple, with the goal of coming to understand together how this couple that once was a loving and mutual partnership has come to sabotage itself. In arriving at that understanding we will strive together to find collaborative solutions to the identified problems. Because of my experience in international negotiations and conflict resolution, I have worked with cross-cultural marital conflicts. But as I have worked with couples for the past 40 years, I have increasingly come to see each marriage as a culture clash.